What makes the same dress look good on one person and just not so right on another?
The secret doesn't lie in looks, in sizes. It's the ability to own what you wear. Owning your body and what you choose to dress yourself in can make all the difference.
And how to own the clothes to wear? By knowing yourself, your individual choices, what you like and don't like and abiding by your truth.
15.1.11
don't trouble troubles in advance
One of the favorite sayings of my old English teacher was -don't trouble troubles till troubles trouble you.
I notice how so often I recreate in my mind of what I think is about to follow, make up scenarios of troublesome situations of upcoming events.
In reality these are not here yet. They are not the present moment. In fact, they may never be my present moment. They live in my imagination.
But by recreating them and imagining them in advance, I live through them many times, perhaps totally in vain. I think part of it is thinking that you are doing the right thing by preparing yourself in advance for possible difficulties so you can come up with solutions in time. You are being a good 'worrier'. :) But it rarely happens the way you imagine it.
Most often the only thing that happens is that you unnecessarily go through the difficulty, instead of being in the present moment and enjoying the Now.
But that is what we have, and whatever may or may not come, we can learn to trust ourselves to handle right then, it's quite enough to go through it just once.
I think my all time favorite quote is by Mark Twain and it goes like this:
"I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened."
I notice how so often I recreate in my mind of what I think is about to follow, make up scenarios of troublesome situations of upcoming events.
In reality these are not here yet. They are not the present moment. In fact, they may never be my present moment. They live in my imagination.
But by recreating them and imagining them in advance, I live through them many times, perhaps totally in vain. I think part of it is thinking that you are doing the right thing by preparing yourself in advance for possible difficulties so you can come up with solutions in time. You are being a good 'worrier'. :) But it rarely happens the way you imagine it.
Most often the only thing that happens is that you unnecessarily go through the difficulty, instead of being in the present moment and enjoying the Now.
But that is what we have, and whatever may or may not come, we can learn to trust ourselves to handle right then, it's quite enough to go through it just once.
I think my all time favorite quote is by Mark Twain and it goes like this:
"I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened."
11.1.11
Permission
Give yourself permission to slip up, to do things you wouldn't normally do. Once in a while it feels good to be 'bad', to fall off the bandwagon. Letting go of all always being on the right track, always trying to do the right thing can open up new ways of being. There's a tight leash on being critical and watchful of yourself all the time. Notice what happens when you open yourself to the possibility of goofing up a little. Stop being judgmental if it happens, just go with the flow and see where it takes you. Today it has taken me to do some interesting stuff opposite of what I would normally do.
Instead of berating yourself and being hard on yourself, be in the moment with acceptance and allowance!
Instead of berating yourself and being hard on yourself, be in the moment with acceptance and allowance!
1.1.11
Best writing
My friend Melissa sent me a link to an insightful newsletter called Clear Thinking that I have subscribed to and this piece written in August has probably been my favorite writing this year. I love the idea of "Guest Consciousness" and the calmness it instills in me.
Enjoy!
Enjoy!
My Trance Awards
There's one day a year where I can set my stereo to the max! to listen to the songs that have inspired and comforted me during the year. It's a rare opportunity to discover there's even more to the songs you love so much, listening to them on max brings out even more wonders in them.
Trance does its best work on you when you listen to it really loudly.
So here they are, the true wonders that left a profound impact on me in 2010:
Mat Zo, my Dj of the year 2009 and 10, with a genius remix of Lange's Live Forever, and his own work:
Near the end
and that said, my unequivocal number 1 of the year is this:
Mat Zo's remix of Reeves Call of Loneliness.
a masterpiece in its own rights, moves you to the core.
Number 2 goes to the most inspiring boost of the year, it's the elevation in this which makes trance so exciting:
Ronski Speed remixing Mike Shiver's Sique
There was an above and beyond episode that beat all others this year with huge songs one after the other, leaving no time to catch your breath. Episode 232. It lined up the big guns of the year, the next three probably share the number 3 spot:
Above and Beyond vs Kyau and Albert - Anphonic - the bass moves on this and the breakdown, just terrific.
The Collaboration of the year for me: Rank 1, Nic Chagall & Wippenberg "One Hundred" - amazing to feel their individual touches on this with perhaps Rank 1 dominating.
For the grooviest, most melodic tune, and for its originality this one wins:
Mason - You are not Alone
Other songs that made me happy this year:
Armin's rework of Dido's Everything to Lose - could this be the track I have listened to the most times the year. Brilliant work there.
Mike Shiver vs Oceanlab, the Daniel Kandi remix - If I could fly on the Surface
Cosmic Gate's Barra with a huge breakdown
Sneijder's Away from Here remixed by Arty with just the beats I like
Arnej's The Strings that bind us for best epic
Alexander Popov's Revolution in you was also very good.
last big hit of the year for me, along with Arty's retouch of Cosmic Gate's Back to Earth, was probably Jon O'Bir - Never Enough with a fantastic breakdown.
and the first big impact was Charlie G's Machined.
For the best 2 hours of consistency the big surprise has been John 00 Fleming's Essential Mix on Radio 1 early in the year, very good quality dark trance.
My respect and gratitude goes out to the creators of the music that makes me believe everything is possible!
Trance does its best work on you when you listen to it really loudly.
So here they are, the true wonders that left a profound impact on me in 2010:
Mat Zo, my Dj of the year 2009 and 10, with a genius remix of Lange's Live Forever, and his own work:
Near the end
and that said, my unequivocal number 1 of the year is this:
Mat Zo's remix of Reeves Call of Loneliness.
a masterpiece in its own rights, moves you to the core.
Number 2 goes to the most inspiring boost of the year, it's the elevation in this which makes trance so exciting:
Ronski Speed remixing Mike Shiver's Sique
There was an above and beyond episode that beat all others this year with huge songs one after the other, leaving no time to catch your breath. Episode 232. It lined up the big guns of the year, the next three probably share the number 3 spot:
Above and Beyond vs Kyau and Albert - Anphonic - the bass moves on this and the breakdown, just terrific.
The Collaboration of the year for me: Rank 1, Nic Chagall & Wippenberg "One Hundred" - amazing to feel their individual touches on this with perhaps Rank 1 dominating.
For the grooviest, most melodic tune, and for its originality this one wins:
Mason - You are not Alone
Other songs that made me happy this year:
Armin's rework of Dido's Everything to Lose - could this be the track I have listened to the most times the year. Brilliant work there.
Mike Shiver vs Oceanlab, the Daniel Kandi remix - If I could fly on the Surface
Cosmic Gate's Barra with a huge breakdown
Sneijder's Away from Here remixed by Arty with just the beats I like
Arnej's The Strings that bind us for best epic
Alexander Popov's Revolution in you was also very good.
last big hit of the year for me, along with Arty's retouch of Cosmic Gate's Back to Earth, was probably Jon O'Bir - Never Enough with a fantastic breakdown.
and the first big impact was Charlie G's Machined.
For the best 2 hours of consistency the big surprise has been John 00 Fleming's Essential Mix on Radio 1 early in the year, very good quality dark trance.
My respect and gratitude goes out to the creators of the music that makes me believe everything is possible!
Look Back to Move Forward
Quietly celebrating by giving out awards in different categories for the year, a year of transformation, that has made me enthusiastic about change like never before. Highlights range from writing 'are un colier' instead of aerocolie in the ultrasound room for the funny moment category; deciding to take part in the make-up course which set in motion all the changes that were to come later in the year and made me aware of something non-existent before: my desire to actually want to do a good job; memorable moments such as 'va prezint colega noua', literally climbing my way up to a life-changing event; doing a whole Saturday shift all alone wins for biggest achievement followed by applying positive thinking with success (all the reading really pays off) feeling at home at my workplace, working harder than I ever thought I could or would want to, starting up this blog; Bioderma's facesaver that doubles as foundation and a sunscreen wins best discovery category, followed by the 14 bus which takes me to work in 10 minutes.
As for my people of the year, the Threesome that helped me go through the change and make it stick, who helped me stay put are my collegues to whom I am very grateful. There were times, most of the times, they believed me in me more than I ever have and all the help and patience they have showed me since May is invaluable. Nothing would have been possible without Renata, Cristina and Lavinia.
In December came the lightbulb moment for me and I hope this year continues along the same lines.
I have been thinking about self-responsibility, how it's about knowing that you are ultimately responsible for creating your own life experience. You don't want to be a helpless victim who blames circumstances for everything that's not working and stands by idly watching life go by without taking things in your own hands.
Here's to a year where we take responsibility for our experience and have the strength to tackle those issues that require our attention. Where we consciously carve out our path every day.
Where we go after what we want with more confidence than ever before.
Where we live with awareness, mindfulness and purpose. Where a problem comes up will be dealt head-on and procrastinating will no longer rule us.
Where we will know how to think thoughts that works for us and give us peace-of-mind and where fear and worries will no longer keep us from manifesting our best!
Where we can make the difference between the time to take action and the time to be patient. The wise line between accepting and letting go or continuing the fight.
A year which will give just the right experiences, people and life lessons we need to learn to move forward.
Where opportunities and lovely experiences abound and we know to enjoy them.
A year which will reveal more of your hidden wonderful qualities and talents, where you get to know yourself all over again.
As for my people of the year, the Threesome that helped me go through the change and make it stick, who helped me stay put are my collegues to whom I am very grateful. There were times, most of the times, they believed me in me more than I ever have and all the help and patience they have showed me since May is invaluable. Nothing would have been possible without Renata, Cristina and Lavinia.
In December came the lightbulb moment for me and I hope this year continues along the same lines.
I have been thinking about self-responsibility, how it's about knowing that you are ultimately responsible for creating your own life experience. You don't want to be a helpless victim who blames circumstances for everything that's not working and stands by idly watching life go by without taking things in your own hands.
Here's to a year where we take responsibility for our experience and have the strength to tackle those issues that require our attention. Where we consciously carve out our path every day.
Where we go after what we want with more confidence than ever before.
Where we live with awareness, mindfulness and purpose. Where a problem comes up will be dealt head-on and procrastinating will no longer rule us.
Where we will know how to think thoughts that works for us and give us peace-of-mind and where fear and worries will no longer keep us from manifesting our best!
Where we can make the difference between the time to take action and the time to be patient. The wise line between accepting and letting go or continuing the fight.
A year which will give just the right experiences, people and life lessons we need to learn to move forward.
Where opportunities and lovely experiences abound and we know to enjoy them.
A year which will reveal more of your hidden wonderful qualities and talents, where you get to know yourself all over again.
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