When you want to create a positive change in your life, or adopt a new habit, I think it's essential that you don't fight against an old habit, don't push against an already existing negative habit.
We tend to think that if we push hard enough, we force ourselves and struggle enough, we will get there.
We struggle to avoid, instead of trying to create!
I think it's the change in your attitude, which is about acceptance, permission, kindness to yourself, and being for something positive, looking for the positive change that is going to accomplish!
Acceptance and understanding of the present circumstances is the way to start. What has gotten you here and why. Don't be angry with yourself for being here with the problem, rather try to be your own friend and be accepting and comforting toward your inner child.
Then try to visualise a positive image change, and try to put it into words in a positive way. Instead of saying and thinking: I desperately need to give up smoking because..... and list all sorts of ways that are not truly your own heart's wishes.... try to make that decision your internal true wish, and put the goal into a positive mind-frame. It will be wonderful to be smoke-free because...and list positive changes you will enjoy.
We think it's criticism, non-acceptance and fighting against ourselves that will lead us onto the desired change. But perhaps it's the other way around.
Always be for something, instead of pushing against.
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