What do you think are some essentials of feeling good at your workplace?
My colleagues and I have just discussed how wonderful it is when you don't go to work dreading the time spent there or having an uneasy feeling meeting your colleagues yet again.
I think one of the essentials is being interested in what you are doing. Health-care is one the two fields I am passionate about and to have the opportunity to work in it is a blessing! It makes me feel at home while working because all the time I am kept interested.
Another key is the atmosphere and feeling like you belong! Feeling at home at the place where you are working and feeling good around your 'family'. I have just realised that I laugh so much at work, so much more than ever at home or even sometimes around friends or leisure activities. These are the people who helped me learn to stay and get accommodated.
It is important to focus on people's kindness and their good traits, instead of dwelling and pointing out what is wrong. Always trying to keep tabs of what is right, instead of wrong and having an attitude of appreciation puts you on the right vibration of getting more of what you see.
I find the feeling of belonging precious. And it is because of the above mentioned two essentials I think.
What do you like about your work(place)?
16.11.10
How you treat yourself -others will treat you
Your attitude and confidence about yourself will determine how others will treat you. If you exude confidence and you believe you deserve the best treatment, you will most likely get it!
The other day after my usual morning bus ride, I dropped by to get some food for work and there I had another great example of how you can learn from people every day. A man walked in and in a very uncertain tone with a feeble voice, he asked the shop assistant if she could change some money for him. 'You can't change this amount of money for me right?'. I think he asked. The woman answered -If you put it that way, I can't. Be more assertive and confident and I will.
Assertiveness and learning how to present yourself and how to sell yourself will get you a long way. It's in how you treat yourself that others will treat you.
Another lesson to take from this is to expect the best possible outcome, instead of virtually asking for a negative outcome. Again you will exude that confidence that you are worthy of good treatment and others will comply and deliver what you are asking for.
The other day after my usual morning bus ride, I dropped by to get some food for work and there I had another great example of how you can learn from people every day. A man walked in and in a very uncertain tone with a feeble voice, he asked the shop assistant if she could change some money for him. 'You can't change this amount of money for me right?'. I think he asked. The woman answered -If you put it that way, I can't. Be more assertive and confident and I will.
Assertiveness and learning how to present yourself and how to sell yourself will get you a long way. It's in how you treat yourself that others will treat you.
Another lesson to take from this is to expect the best possible outcome, instead of virtually asking for a negative outcome. Again you will exude that confidence that you are worthy of good treatment and others will comply and deliver what you are asking for.
12.11.10
Living in the present
In the middle of a mood-swing - considering not showing up, but staying in and curling in, I had a moment of revelation, realising there was nothing to gain and everything to miss out on by staying in.
I thought to myself: This is it. This is my life! If I miss this chance of being present, of living fully, it is a chance that will not come back. It was not a special ocassion, but it was an ocassion that was not returning. It was a day that was either there for me to seize or one to miss! So I said out loud many times: This is my life. Today is it.
This piece confirms the importance of living in the present, the impact it has on happiness. It says: Live in the moment or be unhappy.
I was thrilled with my decision to be present and while looking out of the bus window, I knew that even though it was not an important time for a special reason, no special reason is needed to realise that moment was mine to enjoy because it was not coming back.
Every time, every day is your day to live and enjoy and make the most of. Today is not coming back. Today is yours to take!
I thought to myself: This is it. This is my life! If I miss this chance of being present, of living fully, it is a chance that will not come back. It was not a special ocassion, but it was an ocassion that was not returning. It was a day that was either there for me to seize or one to miss! So I said out loud many times: This is my life. Today is it.
This piece confirms the importance of living in the present, the impact it has on happiness. It says: Live in the moment or be unhappy.
I was thrilled with my decision to be present and while looking out of the bus window, I knew that even though it was not an important time for a special reason, no special reason is needed to realise that moment was mine to enjoy because it was not coming back.
Every time, every day is your day to live and enjoy and make the most of. Today is not coming back. Today is yours to take!
9.11.10
What are you taking for granted?
I think one of the biggest mistakes we make many times in our lives because it's so easy to make this mistake is to take things for granted.
It's easy because when you have something or someone or something working for you, after a while, it becomes natural. After a while you stop seeing. You stop noticing and appreciating that thing as you did the first time around, when it was a surprise, it was interesting....
Consciously realising this as a potential problem, and working around it with deliberate appreciation exercises really helps.
When you get used to something working for you, someone helping you out on a regular basis, it can be a potential pitfall to regard it as something given and natural and take it for granted.
What do you take for granted in your life right now?
It's easy because when you have something or someone or something working for you, after a while, it becomes natural. After a while you stop seeing. You stop noticing and appreciating that thing as you did the first time around, when it was a surprise, it was interesting....
Consciously realising this as a potential problem, and working around it with deliberate appreciation exercises really helps.
When you get used to something working for you, someone helping you out on a regular basis, it can be a potential pitfall to regard it as something given and natural and take it for granted.
What do you take for granted in your life right now?
Think of panic attacks first!
Experiencing panic attacks is more common than we'd think. I think it's so much more common than the statistics lead us to believe. Panic disorder symptoms mimic so many of other disorders that it is characteristic that patients will go from one doctor to another only to discover there's no illness found, no problem detected. The symptoms vary so much and can be frightening, especially when you come up empty-handed every time you go for another examination.
Extremely common, I think it helps if you realise there's nothing wrong with you, what you are experiencing is ok. and it will pass. It is not always easy to stop them, but it helps for me to understand where they come from.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/panic-attacks/DS00338/DSECTION=symptoms
http://www.psihoterapie.net/forum/psihoterapie/atacuri-de-panica/simptomele-unui-atac-de-panica.html
"Consecinta este ca simptomele fizice mentionate mai sus conduc mai degraba la ideea ca ar fi vorba de o boala fizica si persoana se investigheaza la internist, la cardiolog si nu sunt putini cei care ajung la camerele de garda ale spitalelor in atac de panica, convinsi ca vor face un atac de cord. Trec cel putin luni de zile, uneori ani, pana cand persoanele in cauza primesc un ajutor specializat, de la un psihiatru sau psiholog."
http://www.romedic.ro/atacurile-de-panica
- A sense of impending doom or death
- Rapid heart rate
- Sweating
- Trembling
- Shortness of breath
- Hyperventilation
- Chills
- Hot flashes
- Nausea
- Abdominal cramping
- Chest pain
- Headache
- Dizziness
- Faintness
- Tightness in your throat
- Trouble swallowing
1. palpitatii, batai puternice ale inimii sau puls accelerat;
2. transpiratii;
3. tremuraturi sau tremur al intregului corp;
4. senzatie de lipsa de aer sau de sufocare; -sensatia de nodul in gat
5. senzatia de a se innabusi;
6. durere sau discomfort toracic;
7. greata sau discomfort abdominal;
8. senzatia de ameteala, de instabilitate sau de lesin;
9. derealizare sau depersonalizare;
10. teama de a nu-si pierde controlul sau de a nu innebuni;
11. teama ca va muri;
12. parestezii (senzatii de amorteala sau intepaturi);
13. valuri de frig sau caldura.
Extremely common, I think it helps if you realise there's nothing wrong with you, what you are experiencing is ok. and it will pass. It is not always easy to stop them, but it helps for me to understand where they come from.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/panic-attacks/DS00338/DSECTION=symptoms
http://www.psihoterapie.net/forum/psihoterapie/atacuri-de-panica/simptomele-unui-atac-de-panica.html
"Consecinta este ca simptomele fizice mentionate mai sus conduc mai degraba la ideea ca ar fi vorba de o boala fizica si persoana se investigheaza la internist, la cardiolog si nu sunt putini cei care ajung la camerele de garda ale spitalelor in atac de panica, convinsi ca vor face un atac de cord. Trec cel putin luni de zile, uneori ani, pana cand persoanele in cauza primesc un ajutor specializat, de la un psihiatru sau psiholog."
http://www.romedic.ro/atacurile-de-panica
7.11.10
Addiction discussed in the club on Friday, Nov 12
Seems like the English club naturally attracts psychologists, on the upcoming Friday, Geta will tackle a topic that I am very interested in: drug addictions. I have asked her to let's talk a bit also about less heavy drugs, more available to absolutely everyone at anytime, such as painkillers or prescription sedatives.
I believe that painkiller addiction and medication dependence is one of the most underrated health problems in our society, and it is so widespread. It goes completely unnoticed, there's no awareness on the subject.
I see it daily, people popping in a painkiller to ease the pain, and 5 minutes later another one "because the first one had no effect". Another day comes and another pill goes, and from here, the road to addiction is very slippery!
Where is our awareness on how addiction develops and how it gets dangerous?! With each pill taken, we are closer to developing a problem and with each pill taken we risk tolerance and strengthen the chances that the next one will work even less effectively, which means we will need to take more and more pills for the same effect. The cycle starts and it's easy to get powerless to stop it before we realise we have a problem.
Taking the pills unconsciously vs being aware of what you are doing and the dangers of it, I think is half the battle.
Drug Addiction, a fascinating topic in the club this Friday!
I believe that painkiller addiction and medication dependence is one of the most underrated health problems in our society, and it is so widespread. It goes completely unnoticed, there's no awareness on the subject.
I see it daily, people popping in a painkiller to ease the pain, and 5 minutes later another one "because the first one had no effect". Another day comes and another pill goes, and from here, the road to addiction is very slippery!
Where is our awareness on how addiction develops and how it gets dangerous?! With each pill taken, we are closer to developing a problem and with each pill taken we risk tolerance and strengthen the chances that the next one will work even less effectively, which means we will need to take more and more pills for the same effect. The cycle starts and it's easy to get powerless to stop it before we realise we have a problem.
Taking the pills unconsciously vs being aware of what you are doing and the dangers of it, I think is half the battle.
Drug Addiction, a fascinating topic in the club this Friday!
Are you in your own corner?
Are you your own best friend?
I think it's essential that we are behind our own endeavors and relate to ourselves like a good friend would. Are you talking to yourself gently with compassion, are you encouraging yourself?
If you don't trust yourself and believe in yourself, why would you expect anyone else to do that?
Check your self-talk, is it the way you would encourage your own child, your best friend?
How you talk to yourself and believe in yourself determines your ability to succeed, more than your actual abilities!
I think it's essential that we are behind our own endeavors and relate to ourselves like a good friend would. Are you talking to yourself gently with compassion, are you encouraging yourself?
If you don't trust yourself and believe in yourself, why would you expect anyone else to do that?
Check your self-talk, is it the way you would encourage your own child, your best friend?
How you talk to yourself and believe in yourself determines your ability to succeed, more than your actual abilities!
saying No
“A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” ~Gandhi
How this resonates with me right now. This Friday in unconscious state of mind I let myself be taken by the flow and went along completely half-heartedly with what everyone else said and wanted.
Instead of taking a stand and standing up for what I believed in.
Is guilt behind of it all? I usually pride myself on being good at saying No. This time it didn't work. I have already said No to another big project and I felt that withdrawing all responsibility would be too much, too disappointing. In the end I just didn't have the guts to say out loud: No.
I was also torn, because I strongly feel that if I genuinely want to belong a group of people, I also have responsibilities to keep that group going and contribute with whatever I can.
All those voices and don't know which one to listen to. :) The truth is that all I wanted is to say No, and reading this quote, reinforces my belief that it's always best to listen to what you want, and not to the "guilt voice" which is not really your own, but it's about what you Should do, what the others expect of you. To act out of guilt and out of a misplaced desire to please... that's not a road to take.
How this resonates with me right now. This Friday in unconscious state of mind I let myself be taken by the flow and went along completely half-heartedly with what everyone else said and wanted.
Instead of taking a stand and standing up for what I believed in.
Is guilt behind of it all? I usually pride myself on being good at saying No. This time it didn't work. I have already said No to another big project and I felt that withdrawing all responsibility would be too much, too disappointing. In the end I just didn't have the guts to say out loud: No.
I was also torn, because I strongly feel that if I genuinely want to belong a group of people, I also have responsibilities to keep that group going and contribute with whatever I can.
All those voices and don't know which one to listen to. :) The truth is that all I wanted is to say No, and reading this quote, reinforces my belief that it's always best to listen to what you want, and not to the "guilt voice" which is not really your own, but it's about what you Should do, what the others expect of you. To act out of guilt and out of a misplaced desire to please... that's not a road to take.
4.11.10
we are quick to jump to conclusions
Today, a patient failed to complete her MRI examination, she didn't take an instant liking to the apparatus. :)
So my colleague comes and tells us, she is claustrophobic and didn't even know it. So in an instant she got labeled and 'convicted' without a real trial. The MRI tube is not exactly friendly at first, in fact it's a bit shocking, but I believe there are degrees of panic disorder and claustrophobia. While one patient will scream and wants to get out right away, another will experience milder panic symtoms and eventually or very soon will be able to go through with the examination especially after a little bit of an encouraging talk.
A few sessions of therapy would probably send this patient's claustrophobia packing, but instead she is probably home wallowing in the new 'diagnosis' she received today. Where to go from there? What will now prevent her from trying again, if she believes what happened today is the be-all end-all experience. Don't take your labels for granted! And remember that there are degrees of every disorder and precisely because of this, they are treatable and can be alleviated with a few spot-on discussions.
3.11.10
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