saying No

“A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” ~Gandhi

How this resonates with me right now. This Friday in unconscious state of mind I let myself be taken by the flow and went along completely half-heartedly with what everyone else said and wanted.

Instead of taking a stand and standing up for what I believed in.

Is guilt behind of it all? I usually pride myself on being good at saying No. This time it didn't work. I have already said No to another big project and I felt that withdrawing all responsibility would be too much, too disappointing. In the end I just didn't have the guts to say out loud: No.

I was also torn, because I strongly feel that if I genuinely want to belong a group of people, I also have responsibilities to keep that group going and contribute with whatever I can.

All those voices and don't know which one to listen to. :) The truth is that all I wanted is to say No, and reading this quote, reinforces my belief that it's always best to listen to what you want, and not to the "guilt voice" which is not really your own, but it's about what you Should do, what the others expect of you. To act out of guilt and out of a misplaced desire to please... that's not a road to take.